What is the secret to getting along with others? Have you ever wondered why different people seem to react differently when faced with a situation where they want something or when people want something from them.
There are three types of people in the world.
The first type is the aggressive type, the second is the passive type and the third type is the assertive type.
The aggressive type is the type of person who seldom reasons objectively with you. You either do things their way or you are getting in their way. This often leads to aggressive people throwing tantrums or using emotional blackmail to get what they want. Unlike assertive people, these guys act in a manner that is totally contrary to assertive behavior.
The passive type on the other hand might ask meekly for something. People might even take advantage on these passive types and they usually comply out of obligation… until they can take it no longer and erupt (and you don’t want to be around them when they erupt – they could be worse than the aggressive type!)
And finally there is the assertive type. Being assertive is getting what you want without acting like a brute or being passive about it.
One of the ways to increase our happiness factor in our lives is to get along with other people. And one of the unavoidable things we must face is to deal with aggressive and pushy people that will try and take advantage of you or to avoid BEING an aggressive and pushy person. So how do we get what we want?
In life, there is a very clear distinction between being aggressive and being assertive.
As you can see, the key to happiness in any relationship is not to act like a barbarian when you want something and neither is about acting like a doormat and let people take advantage of you (these types of people usually explode in the end and things will get ugly).
If you want to find the perfect balance, then being assertive is the way.
You don’t have to be an aggressive person because being assertive is more about being firm about what needs to be done and communicating in such a way that people would feel the reason behind it rather than being put off by the behavior.
If you want to get what you want out of a relationship or a friendship, it is pointless to throw a tantrum or resort to death threats and emotional blackmail. You need to tap into their subconscious mind before they are ready to comply.
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