Sometimes, when you get to know someone long enough, you tend to notice things about them that you don’t like. Sometimes you might get into arguments with people. If you really want to get to know someone well enough, you will inevitably run into disagreements with one another.
This article will teach you how to deal with them because handling arguments is part and parcel of life. If you don’t have arguments, you probably don’t have any close friends to begin with.
Of course, there is another group of people who argue for the sake of arguing and you don’t want to get into a fight with these people.
Here are the three reasons why people argue (or are argumentative in general)…
They are feeling frustrated and argumentative so they go around looking to pick a fight. They are people who are the fighters. They get a kick out of arguing with other people and it is pointless to argue with them in the first place!
The second group of argumentative people is the attention seekers. They lack attention and they feel that the only way they can get the attention they need is to argue with someone. You mustn’t argue with these people either because they will keep coming back for more or because it isn’t good for them (as they use these kinds of arguments to get attention.)
The last group is people who like to change things. They hate the way things are and they want to go all out and change the things around them so they argue until something happens!
The worst thing that can happen is getting sucked into these kind of arguments and trying to WIN them when the battle is already ‘lost’ from the beginning of it. General Abrams once quoted, “Never get in fights with pigs – you get all dirty and they enjoy it!”
So how do we handle these ‘pigs’? By avoiding the argument in the first place! This is one of the most effective ways to save a friendship.
Once again, it’s not about winning on an intellectual level. If you cannot touch the subconscious mind and insist on using ‘brute force’, you will only lose the battle, but other party is of the same opinion still!
Don’t try and prove the other party wrong. In fact, sometimes it is better to permit them to have their own opinion. As a matter of fact, once they cool down, they might even come up to you with an apology!
At the end of the day, try not to win the argument. Let THEM win the argument because winning it only results in you digging two graves.
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