Friendship is such a fragile thing. As a matter of fact, if you take a good look at trust and integrity, it might take a lifetime to build it but only seconds to destroy it. It is even more fragile than a glass. Friendships are usually tied closely with it.
Having real trust and true integrity in friendship could mean a lot of things:
It could mean keeping your promises at all costs. It could mean sticking to your principles no matter what circumstances you are in. It could mean making a lot of sacrifices. It could also mean that you have to do what is right even if it could cost you!
Trust and integrity are one of the most important things you must have when making friends and keeping them in the long run.
Most people may tend to make assumption on you, for example:
“Andy? Yeah he’s a fine dude, really nice chap…”
“Hmm, Andy, quite a slacker actually… can’t rely on him to do anything”
“Andy is one tough dude. He is a good friend who would stick to his guns and do the right thing. And he will always be there for his friends”
Chances are, YOU are the Andy that people would sum up. Which of those comments would you like to fall under?
Having integrity is one key factor to living well with others because people like things to be predictable. They don’t like people to spring up bad surprises. If you are a person with a lot of integrity, they will always count on you. You are the ‘go to’ person where people will rely on.
Be careful, however. People are rather unforgiving especially where integrity is concerned.
If you arrive early for your appointments, make sure you are always early for ALL your appointments. People will criticize you even if you arrive late only on one occasion. If you don’t buy pirated DVDs, make sure you stick to it. Don’t be wishy-washy! Hey, even crooks have integrity and they want other crooks to respect them.
At the end of the day, the key is to be consistent irregardless of what your moral values are or your way of life. Don’t change your values all the time and lose your integrity because it only confuses people.
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