Have you ever wondered why life is nothing but a trading of favors or feelings? It is very true, that our lives operate like bank accounts and automatic teller machines.
Take for example: When you go to the bank, you make deposits into your bank account and you make withdrawals from your bank account. What if you keep on going to the bank daily to make withdrawals? Do you know what will happen? The Automatic Teller Machine will give you a rude retort implying that you have overdrawn!
The same applies to the people with deal with on a daily basis. You see, when someone does a favor for another, they are making an emotional deposit in the person’s heart.
On the other hand, when we act as though we are the king of the world, the only people around us who will put up with our horrendous attitude are probably the ones who are closest to you. If you continue to persist in your streak of folly, even their patience will run out.
That is tantamount to making emotional withdrawals from their hearts. People who are closest to us start with a larger bank account. After all, they have a starting balance to begin with (your mother or your father will have more tolerance for you because you are, after all, their baby boy/girl). We must be careful not to take those around us for granted. Continuous withdrawals will cause relationships to become estranged. It is like having a terrible sickness yet you just can’t die!
No doubt, a hungry man can live for a few days without food, but as the hunger demands from your empty shell, you will feel quite irritated yet you can’t make it go away (unless you ‘deposit’ some food)
We must never reach the point where all our emotional deposits run out. To put it in a metaphor, it would be a horrible thing because the ‘interest’ on overdrawn emotional bank accounts is quite expensive – in other words, it will be very, very difficult to mend a broken relationship.
Most emotionally bankrupt individuals harbor suicidal thoughts not because people refuse to love them. Their lack of love is only a symptom of a larger problem – that they did not give or deposit in the first place and therefore they won’t get any sympathy from anyone else.
It is up to you to keep on making deposits – like helping your friends, keeping in touch with them, and being there for them when they need you. Remember that making deposits might ‘cost’ you in the short run, but the ‘interest’ is worth far more in the long run.
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