It isn’t easy trying to get along with people. Everybody is different and no two individuals are unique. If you put two people together in a dome for a month, they will most likely wind up getting at each other’s throats.
In this article, we will talk about a few tips on how you can achieve true tranquility in human relationships.
People are only human. Don’t expect too much from them and you will be able to love your friends more. If you expect too much from them, you will strain the friendship and you will not get what you want in the end (albeit temporarily but it is not advisable to strain the friendship)
We mustn’t take ourselves too seriously either. When we are too critical of ourselves, chances are, we will be extremely critical of other people. We can’t measure others with the yardstick which we use to measure ourselves with.
You can also learn to stop blaming others for your problems. They are not responsible for your happiness. If you keep on blaming others, you will never take responsibility towards your friendships and you will sit down and wonder why everyone has abandoned you.
Learn to say “NO” sometimes. Be assertive about the NO without over-reacting or hurting others in the process. The easiest way to go insane is to try and be everything to everyone.
Hug people often. I don’t care what culture or family background you are from. When you hug people, it’s therapeutic. When you hug people, your body releases endorphins that will give you a good feeling so make sure you find someone you can regularly hug with.
Do NOT humiliate people in public. People can get beaten up physically and still look heroic but when you make someone ‘lose face’, you strip their ego naked and they will hate you for life.
Don’t jump to conclusions. Clarify everything by asking questions first or else you will hurt people’s feelings.
Learn the value of compliments. It is free to give out and it heals our souls in many ways. It is good to feel validated by others because we all need to feed our egos sometimes.
When you give, don’t make the mistake of telling others the ‘cost’ of your ‘gift’. It’s like saying, “Happy birthday, dear! P.S. Your diamond ring costs me $5,000 and I hope you appreciate it!” No strings attached please!
Don’t wait too long to tell someone you love them. They could be dead before you have the chance.
God gave us two ears and one mouth. So make sure you listen twice as much and speak only half as much – not the other way.
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